How To Win Back a Girl

So, you lost your girlfriend huh?  You're probably feeling pretty bad and heartbroken about the whole thing, otherwise you wouldn't be here.  But before we can even talk about getting your girl back, you've got to do some serious soul searching yourself. 

Think hard about why the two of you broke up and the feelings you're having about it.  Do you really want her back, or are you just used to having her around?  Just how much aggravation are you willing to take to get back with her?  A lot of this has to do with how the two of you broke up.  Did you cheat on her or was it just an argument.  If you broke up over just an argument, allowing some time for emotions to cool down may be all it take to get back with her.  But, if you cheated be prepared for lockdown even if you do get her back.  You'll have no phone calls, no nights out with friends, no freedom at all.  It will be like you're locked up at San Quinten, except that the inmates there are probably going to be getting more action than you will the first few weeks.  Are you prepared for all of this?

If you answered yes, get out a pen and paper for a good old pros and cons list.  Write down all the reasons you want to get back with her on one side and all the reasons you broke up or your relationship went off course.  Make sure you have more powerful pros than cons.

This all may seem slightly frivolous, but to come at this situation from a position of strength, you must know what you want and how you're going to get it.

If something happened between you and your girl that caused your breakup, knowing what it is and apologizing or allowing enough time and space to work things out isn't too hard to figure out.  However, even if an apology is necessary, you should never take full blame for the situation.  This creates in her an assumption that you're always to blame.  Throughout the rest of your relationship, she will continue to insist you take all the blame, even if you're not to blame at all.  This is cause resentment to build up in you and your relationship will be over again before you know it.

Always make sure that she takes her fair share of the blame.

But what if your girl just up and left?  Told you that its not you its me.  The harsh truth is, its is you.  Either she's found someone who satisfies her need to be cared for and protected better or you've changed since the beginning of the relationship and took her for granted.  Never fear though.  It may be harder to hook the same fish twice, but its not impossible.

First off, you need to demonstrate to her that you're a confident leader.  This is easier said than done, as confidence is developed over the course of many years, its not a switch that you can turn on and off.  But, if you have problems with your confidence, read some books on body language and study people who are confident and you admire.  Copy what these people do.  Even look in the mirror for a while and study how you stand and present yourself.  Be completely honest and practice until you can walk and stand with confidence and pride.  Many times even this will make you feel more confident, it's very hard to cry while you are smiliing.  This won't just help you win back this girl, but it will help you in all aspects of your life.

The next step may seem like its out of a B-rated sitcom, but its tried and true because it works.  You have to show her that other women like you and are attracted to you.  If you know she's going to be somewhere you're going, don't ever show up to it alone or just with your buddies.  Try to find a girl, or two, or three, to have around your arm.  This is not just a jealousy thing, having other women around you shows that you are a catch, which automatically makes her more attracted to you.

If you have these things already, then maybe you just took her for granted.  Try to act the way you did when the two of you first met and attempt to put that spark back into your relationship.

And so there you have it, an easy guide to get yourself started in the right direction to getting back with your girl.